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I AM MY BROTHER'S KEEPER

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 Children.  What would the world be like without them?  In my eyes, it would certainly be a darker place.  Children have a way of evoking from us emotions in a way much different
than adults.  For instance, when tragedy such as a sudden death strikes a child, we
feel a greater sense of remorse...of sorrow in the loss of one so young.  Conversely, is
there anything that can bring a grin to your face quicker than the bright eyed, beaming
smile of a young infant or child.  Just some of the crazy things they say or do can
instantly bring us to laughter.  Children have a way of bringing us joy in a way that can
only be found elsewhere through the Lord.  And, just as through Jesus Christ, in children
we have hope.  For they are a reminder of the start of life, a perpetual renewal of
human existence, a replenishment of God's kingdom.

     I have two daughters.  Gina, my oldest, is grown and is in the Army, stationed in
Germany; Renea is also grown, married  and has two young sons of her own.  I also
have a grown son, named Glenn.  It seems just like yesterday that they were children,
and in a way, I still think they are...just bigger children.  I consider them to be three of
God's greatest blessings in my life and they never fail to cheer my day, despite times
when I am saddened by some of their decissions.  After all, kids are people and all our
lives are a constant learning experience.  But we never really stop learning do we?  The answer is no..............for we all need to at times...to be a child again.

     Parenting a child is one of life's greatest challenges, requiring countless hours of
attention, education, and nurturing.   Frankly, it's just plain hard work.  We, as parents,
bear a stupendous responsibility for we are our children's role models, their heroes
and heroines.  They depend on us for everything.  They watch everything we do and hear everything we say.  Our children often grow up as mirror images of us.

     One of our biggest responsibilities and challenges as parents is controlling what our children are exposed to.  For a child, when born, is much like a new computer eager to
store and process mass quantities of data and information.  They constantly are
watching all that goes on around them, absorbing what they hear and see.
That's why parental censorship is so critical.

     How well we control what our children watch on television goes a long way toward how
they develop behaviorally.  They try to duplicate actions they see on the tube, unable to understand the difference between fantasy and reality.  If they see it done, they
will most probably want to try it themselves.

     How much we work to stimulate our children intellectually goes a long way toward their educational development.  They will know little unless taught.  A child's success in school
can be directlyrelated to how active parents are in working academically with their kids.

     How we talk in the presence of our children will structure the language that they use.  How carefully do we watch what we say around our children?  If it is spoken in their presence,
you can be sure it will be repeated.

     And how we live our lives as Christians will structure our children's spiritual growth.  Are
we being good Christian role models for our children?  Are we getting them to Sunday
School and church every Sunday?  Are we spending time to teach them about Jesus?
Are we helping them to learn how to read the bible?  To pray?

     With our children learning so much from us, I have an interesting reversal for you to think
about, a reversal that Jesus was also trying to convey to his disciples in the Book of
Matthew.   In Chapter 18, verse 3, Jesus says, "unless you change and become like
little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven."Although his words were
directed at his chosen twelve, the call is made for all of us to change and become like
children.  To be a child again.

     Jesus is telling us in the book of Matthew to use our children as role models.  To learn
from them.  To observe them and follow their lead.  Now, we may ask ourselves, "what
can we learn from them?"

     Children have no sense of segregation, no sense of discrimination, no sensitivity to
cultural and language differences.   Meanwhile, we often are easily led toward
concentrating on what makes us different instead of what makes us alike.  A group of
children playing together will interact in harmony because they see each other as
children, nothing more, nothing less.  Children seldom develop opinions or stances or attitudes.  They are not pre-programmed to discriminate, to hate, or to be arrogant.
Rather, children are humble, eager to please, wanting to serve their parents.  That's
why Jesus tells us further in verse 4, "Therefore, whoever humbles himself  like this
child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven."  The call is to return to our childlike self
and serve God, humbling ourselves before him...to return to the innocence and
indifference we had as children...to love one another equally and unconditionally, for
we are truly children of God.  To be a child again.  Amen.

The Love Of A Mother, A Love Like No Other

Mothers.  Where would we be without them?  I guess we could jokingly say that we
wouldn't be here if it weren't for them, for they had the anatomical pleasure of going
through that nine month metamorphosis we more commonly know as pregnancy.
Have you ever thought of the sacrifices a mother makes even before a child is born?
 The morning sickness, changes in diet and body shape, numerous trips to the doctor
to ensure all is progressing well, and all the planning and preparation for our arrival
into the world.  We often tend to forget about the readiness that took place before our
birth.  Sure, Dad had a stake in the whole process as well,  but seriously folks....who
was picking out the drapes, the blankets, the outfits, etc...so you would look adorable,
presentable, the most, beautiful baby on earth?  Mom...that's who.  Face it guys, you
men have a brief moment to get the conception train rolling, and we ladies handle
the rest.  After that, your demanding duties might include assembling the crib, the
stroller, or the walker.  Pale in comparison to having a living, breathingchild within
you.  And, of course, when the time comes, men becomelike quasi-Mario Andrettis,
racing at high speed to get Mom to the hospital.  Still minor compared to the mother experiencing delivery.  For it is there that a mother makes maybe one of her biggest
sacrifices.  For she then bears much pain and strife for our sake in order to bring us
into the world.  Oh, the love of a mother.

     Upon our birth, we enter a world, strange and foreign.  Our existence depends on the
care given us by our parents.  We are fed, nurtured, loved tenderly, taught to walk, to
talk, to know the difference between right and wrong, hopefully to know how to say a
prayer, to know God.  We certainly would go nowhere after birth without the guidance
and instruction of Mom and Dad.  And althoughboth parents are involved in this process,
the mother has that extra special bond with her child.  Somehow, a mysterious
connection is made during a pregnancy that draws the mother and child together in a
way that transcends reason...something far beyond a physical connection. This link is
almost spiritual in a sense.  A mother seems to have that ability to hold you just the
right way, to give you that sense of security, a sense of safety.  Again guys, how many
times has junior just been screaming his little head off and nothing seems to please him
or her enough to get them to stop.  But just hand the child to mom and immediately........
almost automatically ... mysteriously, dare I say magically....the child stops crying.  Ever happen to you?  I just have two questions ladies...how do you do it?  Is there a secret
there? I think it's in that connection....that bond, that special love.
Oh the love of a mother.

     As we grow, we tend to more and more gain our independence.  We go to school...we develop relationships outside the home and apart from our parents...we learn to exist
on our own, apart from our mother and father.  But even though we may have learned a
lot about branching out into the brave new world we saw outside the home, we were too
often slow in developing independent living skills around the house.  Our rooms often
were hazardous zones to enter into, we rarely picked up after ourselves, we left a lot of
dirty dishes in the sink (confident I think that they would clean themselves and be back
in the cupboard in the morning.)  Our moms worked very hard cleaning up our messes,
cooking for us, doing our laundry, taking care of us so we could experience that place
which we learned to call "home".  How often did we take the time to say thanks then?
 Probably not near enough. That's why I feel that in this hectic world in which we live, it's
a real blessing to have a day to remind us of our mothers.  For their job is too often a
thankless one and we don't realize it fully until we've moved away and mom isn't there anymore.  Or maybe we gain our own experience of having a child or two.  Then, we
definitely start to relate to what our parents went through.  And we certainly miss Mom
and all she did for us.  Oh, the love of a mother.

     As I sat down to put my thoughts on paper, I began to see where our mothers and
Jesus have a lot in common.  Let me explain..................

     You see just as our mothers endured pain and suffering to deliver us into this world, so Jesus endured the pain of being nailed to the cross, suffering a slow, agonizing death so
that we might find our salvation.  Mom delivered us into the world, but Jesus delivered us
from that point forward.

     And just as we moved away from home, we too often move away from Jesus.
Sometimes we don't take the time to stop and give the Lord thanks as well.
He blesses us so much, and too often gets nothing in return.  I've come to learn from experience, that just as we when we moved from our mothers, we don't experience a
true appreciation for what Jesus has done for you until you're without him.  The good
news for me and I'm sure countless others as well is that Jesus had left the key under
the mat so I could come back home.  I give thanks daily for that.  The Lord's love is so
great that he will never turn his back on you, even if you do on him.  Is there a greater
love than that?

     And just as our mothers nurtured and fed us to help us grow, so does our Jesus.
Through the study of how Jesus lived as found in the Gospels, we satisfy a different
brand of hunger, a need for direction as to how we should conduct ourselves in a world
just as indifferent as the Israel that Jesus walked.  He is the ultimate role model, a
blinding ray of light in an ever growing dark world.  He is a security blanket for each of
us.  Just as we found a special comfort physically in Mom, we find that same peace and
serenity spiritually through Jesus Christ.

     Although we are distant from our heavenly home, our faith in Jesus works to bridge the
gap and bring us closer to our Lord.  In our New Testament reading today, Jesus
instructs us that the greatest commandment is to "Love the Lord your God with all your
heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength." If you are
not sure how to do that, we need look no further than how our mothers and Jesus have
loved us.  For when I think of Mom, I see that Jesus placed in her a special love...a part of himself.   For oh how we're blessed with the love of a mother, and the love of
Jesus....a love like no other.  AMEN


 
 
 
 
 

I believe that we, are grooming tomorrow's leaders today.

 Have you ever considered that all of us are role models? We are. Anyone who is
  around a young person is a role model, whether you want to be or not.  You don't
have to be a blood relative; you don't have to talk to the young people or spend time
with them. Simply be around them, in the same room with them. Some role models
are effective; others are ineffective. Let's distinguish the two kinds of role models.

Ineffective role models are adults who are unaware of their responsibilities to children
These adults have forgotten that children are like sponges; children model any and all
behavior that they see.  An ineffective role model falls in one of two categories: one
who does not want to support the future of children, and one whose actions do not
support the future of children.  For example, an ineffective role model might be the
person who chooses not to spend time or resources on young people.  Or he might be
the person who sells or uses drugs, a spouse/child abuser, a criminal, a fault-finder,
complainer, finger-pointer, a dream killer, a lazy person or a violent person.

An effective role model recognizes that young people are our future. They volunteer
their time and their resources. They know they set an example for children by virtue
of who they are and what they do.

Here is a little excerpt from Carl Sagan's
"The demon-haunted World"  or  "Science as a Candle in the Dark".
     ====== p 39, Chapter "Science and Hope"======
An extraterrestrial being, newly arrived on Earth--scrutinizing what we
mainly present to our children in television, radio, movies, newspapers,
magazines, the comics, and many books--might easily conclude that we
are intent on teaching them murder, rape, cruelty, superstition, credulity,
and consumerism.  We keep at it, and through constant repetition many
of them finally get it.  What kind of society could be created if, instead,
we drummed into them science and a sense of hope?


Gina - Aleshia - Olivija - Donald
Our family on vacation in San Antonio, Texas
1985

Despite what pop psychologists claim, females and males are not from different planets. In
     fact, studies show that girls and boys share an overwhelming number of characteristics. They
     have the same capacity to succeed in reading, writing and mathematics. And until puberty
     begins, they have similar physical development, so that coed teams before puberty would
     have as many outstanding girl stars as boy stars - assuming of course, that the two had
     comparable practice and coaching. Contrary to public opinion, parents, rather than peers or
     the media, have the greatest influence on their daughter's lives and life choices. Expectations
     and experiences from family and community members are more likely to influence girls'
     decisions than their innate abilities. Differences in achievement come from different
     expectations for success and different experiences.
..What parents can do.......................At Home and At School

40 Developmental Assets

Support
                   1. Family support--High levels of love and support from parents.
                   2. Positive family communication--Willing to seek parents' advice and counsel.
                   3. Other adult relationships--Receives support from three or more non-parent adults.
                   4. Caring neighborhood--Experiences caring neighbors.
                   5. Caring school climate--School provides a caring, encouraging environment.
                   6. Parent involvement in school--Active interest by parents in helping youth succeed in school.

 Empowerment
                   7. Community values youth--Perceives that community adults value youth.
                   8. Youth given useful roles--Active in community life.
                   9. Service to others--Gives one hour or more per week to community service.
                   10. Safety--Feels safe at home, school and in the neighborhood.

Boundaries & Expectations
                   11. Family boundaries--Clear family rules and consequences; whereabouts monitored.
                   12. School boundaries--School provides clear rules and consequences.
                   13. Neighborhood boundaries--Neighbors monitor young people's behavior.
                   14. Adult role models--Parent(s) and other adults model responsible behavior.
                   15. Positive peer influences--Best friends model responsible behavior.
                   16. High expectations--Parents and teachers encourage young person to do well.

 Constructive Use of Time
                   17. Creative activities--Involved three or more hours per week in lessons or practice in music, theater, or other arts.
                   18. Youth programs--Involved three or more hours per week in sports, clubs or
                   organizations at school and/or in community organizations.
                   19. Religious community--Involved one hour or more per week in activities or services in a congregation.
                   20. Time at home--Out with friends "with nothing special to do," two or fewer nights per week.

Commitment to Learning
                   21. Achievement motivation--Motivated to do well in school.
                   22. School encouragement--Actively engaged in school.
                   23. Homework--Reports one or more hours of homework per day.
                   24. Bonding to school--Cares about his or her school.
                   25. Reading for pleasure--Reads for pleasure three or more hours per week.

Positive Values
                   26. Caring--Places high value on helping others.
                   27. Equality and social justice--Places high value on equality and reducing hunger and poverty.
                   28. Integrity--Acts on convictions, stands up for beliefs.
                   29. Honesty--Tells the truth even when it is not easy.
                   30. Responsibility--Accepts and takes personal responsibility.
                   31. Restraint--Believes it's important not to be sexually active or use alcohol or other
                   drugs.

                   Social Competencies
                   32. Planning and decision-making--Has skill to plan ahead and make choices.
                   33. Interpersonal competence--Has empathy, sensitivity, and friendship skills.
                   34. Cultural competence--Has knowledge of and comfort with people of different racial backgrounds.
                   35. Resistance skills--Can resist negative peer pressure.
                   36. Peaceful conflict resolution--Seeks to resolve conflict non-violently.

                   Positive Identity
                   37. Personal control--Feels he or she has control over "things that happen to me."
                   38. Self-esteem--Reports high self-esteem.
                   39. Sense of purpose--Reports "my life has a purpose."
                   40. Positive view of personal future--Is optimistic about personal future.



 

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When God Made a Father
When the Good Lord was creating fathers he started with a tall frame.
 An Angel nearby said, "What kind of father is that? if your going to make children so close to
the ground, why have you put father up so high? He won't be able to shoot marbles without kneeling, tuck a child in bed without bending, or even kiss a child without a lot of stooping."
    God smiled and said,"Yes, but if I make him child-size, whom would children have to look up to?Then God made a father's hands, they were large and sinewy.
    The Angel said, "Large hands can't manage diaper pins, small buttons, rubber bands on pony tails--or even remove splinters caused by a baseball bat."
    God smiled and said, "I know, but they're large enough to hold everything a small child empties from their pockets, yet small enough to cup a child's face in.
    Then God molded long, slim legs and broad shoulders.
    "Do you realize you just made a father without a lap?" chortled the Angel.

    God said, " A mother needs a lap. A father needs strong shoulders to pull a sled, to balance
a child on a bicycle, or to hold a sleepy head on the way home from the circus."
    God was in the middle of creating two of the largest feet anyone had ever seen when the Angel could not keep quite any longer.
    "That's not fair. Do you honestly think those large boats are going to get out of bed early in the morning when the baby cries? Or walk through a small birthday party without crushing a least three of the guests?"
    God smiled and said, "They'll work. You will see. They'll support a small child who wants to ride a horse to Banbury Cross or scare off mice at the summer cabin, or display shoes that will be a challenge to fill.
    God worked throughout the night, giving the father few words, but a firm, authoritative voice; eyes that saw everything, but remained calm and tolerant.
Finally, almost as an after thought, he added-tears. Then he turned to the Angel and said, "Now, are you satisfied that he can love as much as a mother?"
    The Angel said no more.
                                                                                        ..Author-- Erma Bombeck  1974

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HUMOR

I AM MY KEEPER'S BROTHER

"Yesterday's the past, tomorrow's the future, but today is a GIFT.
That's why it's called the present."

 HUMOR  BOOMER
Silver in my hair
Gold in my mouth
Lead in my A__ .
I'm A Senior Citizen
And I'm Having The Time of My Life

                  Laughter is good for the soul!
I'm the life of the party...even when it lasts till 8 p.m
I'm very good at opening child-proof caps with a hammer.
I'm usually interested in going home before I get to where I'm going.
I'm good on a trip for at least an hour without my aspirin, beano, & antacid.
I'm awake many hours before my body allows me to get up.
I'm smiling all the time because I can't hear a word you are saying.
I'm aware that other people's grandchildren are not as bright as mine.
I'm so cared for: Long term care, Eye care, Private care, Dental care . . .
I'm not grouchy, I just don't like traffic, waiting, crowds, children, politicians,cold weather,
hot weather, rain, sleet, hail, snow, ice,cold food,hot food, fast food, spicy food, ethnic food,
clothing that scratches, too tight clothing, too loose clothing, etc., etc., etc.
I'm sure everything I can't find is in a secure place.
I'm wrinkled, saggy and bumpy and that's just my left leg.
I'm realizing that aging is not for sissies.
I'm anti-everything now: Anti-fat, Anti-smoke, Anti-noise, Anti-inflammatory . .
I'm going to reveal what goes on behind closed doors . . .Absolutely nothing!
I'm sure they are making adults much younger these days.
I'm in the initial stage of my golden years: SS, CD's, IRA's, AARP. . .
I'm wondering . . If you're only as old as you feel, how could I be alive at 150?
I'm supporting all movements now . . .by eating bran, prunes and raisins.
I'm a walking storeroom of facts . . . I've just lost the storeroom.

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